Resources

• Brene Brown on Blame (Video)

• Five pathways to intimacy (PDF)

• How shame can hurt your relationship (PDF)

• How to have a difficult conversation (PDF)

• In this video by pioneering marriage researcher John Gottman, Ph.D. he talks about building trust in relationships

• This video by relationship counseling expert Susan Johnson, Ph.D. discusses how to tell if your marriage is in trouble

• Excellent books for dealing with the impact of an affair on your marriage are After the Affair by Janis Spring, Ph.D. and Not “Just Friends” by Shirley Glass, Ph.D.

• An interesting book on neurobiology and intimacy by Susan Johnson, Ph.D.is called Love Sense

• If you or your partner has Attention Deficit Disorder then you might find The ADHD Effect on Marriage by Melissa Orlov a useful resource

• “Masters of Love” This article in The Atlantic summarizes the actions that make for a successful marriage

Learning To Become Less Reactive

• Abdominal breathing (PDF)

• Progressive Muscle Relaxation (PDF)

• Progressive Muscle Relaxation (MP3)

• Relaxation Response by Herbert Benson, MD (PDF)

• Free guided meditations from the UCLA Mindful Awareness Research Center